So their courtship meandered on through the thirties, kept fresh when it might otherwise have staled by Alf’s periodic long absences at sea. He grew reasonably friendly with Julia’s sisters Elizabeth, Anne, and Harriet, and liked her mother Annie (née Millward), a woman so sweet-natured and kind that she would sometimes buy shoes for children she saw running barefoot in the street. But Pop (whom even Mimi described as “a bully”) always remained bristlingly hostile. Like most young courting couples of that time, with nowhere to meet but pubs, family front parlors, and park benches, Alf and Julia reached their early twenties without having experienced any physical intimacy beyond kissing and petting. In spite of Mimi’s dark suspicions about “one in every port,” Alf always swore he remained faithful to Julia on his travels, and wrote to her at every opportunity. The Stanleys accused Alf of being work shy—“swallowing the anchor” in nautical slang. However, he seems to have remained employed more successfully than a great many others in Liverpool during that era of grinding economic depression. His official Board of Trade seaman’s employment record gives the standard of his work and personal conduct for voyage after voyage as a consistent VG. At one point, Julia’s family made a highly disingenuous move to “help” him by finding him a place aboard a whaling ship, which would have had the blessed result of taking him away for about two years. When Alf refused to consider the idea, Pop Stanley ordered him out of the house once again.
Alf and Julia finally married in December 1938, when he was twenty-six and she twenty-four. A few weeks earlier, Britain’s prime minister, Neville Chamberlain, had returned from Munich waving the piece of paper that “guaranteed” peace with Hitler’s Germany in return for abandoning Czechoslovakia to invasion and genocide. The mood of national euphoria, while it lasted, produced a sharp surge in the marriage rate as many young people felt their future to be more secure. But Alf and Julia took their belated plunge with no more thoughts of the future than they ever had. According to Alf, she dared him to do it one night at the pub, and he was never one to refuse a dare.
Neither of their families was told in advance what they had decided. On December 3, Julia left home as if it were just another working day and at noon rendezvoused with Alf at the register office in Bolton Street, behind the Adelphi Hotel. The only witnesses to the ceremony were Alf’s brother Sydney, whom he’d let into the secret at the last moment, and one of Julia’s usherette colleagues. Afterward, Sydney stood the new Mr. and Mrs. Lennon drinks and a meal of roast chicken at a pub over the road called the Big House; they spent the evening at the cinema, watching a Mickey Rooney film (which happened to be about an orphanage), then separated to spend their wedding night at their respective homes. Mimi was never to forget the heart-sinking moment when Julia walked in, threw her wedding certificate onto the table, and said, “There, I’ve done it! I’ve married him.”
Pop Stanley’s initial reaction was also one of explosive horror and disgust. But, under the gentler influence of his wife, Annie, he accepted that there was nothing that could be done—indeed, that as a conscientious father he must try his best to give the newlyweds a proper start in life. Swallowing his feelings, Pop volunteered to leave the family flat in Berkeley Street and rent more spacious accommodation so that Julia and Alf could move in with Annie and him. The chosen property was number 9 Newcastle Road, a bay-windowed terrace house a few minutes’ walk from Penny Lane and Alf’s alma mater, the Bluecoat Hospital.
The four coexisted in relative harmony throughout 1939, as war with Germany drew nearer and Britain succumbed to a fever of gas-mask issuing, child evacuation, and air-raid precautions. For Pop Stanley in particular, it was an eventful time. In June, a brand-new Royal Navy submarine, the Thetis, sank during her trials in Liverpool Bay. Pop joined the massive operation to recover the vessel, whose stern was initially visible rising vertically from the water. The crew considered themselves in no great peril, tapping out cheerful Morse messages to their rescuers on the steel hull as cables were passed underneath to drag it to the surface. But at the crucial moment, the cables snapped and the submarine disappeared for good, taking seventy-one men with her.
Alf had gone to sea again, on the SS Duchess of York, but returned home in time for the first Christmas of World War II. His only child with Julia was conceived at 9 Newcastle Road one day in January 1940. Finding themselves, unusually, alone in the house for a couple of hours, they made love on the kitchen floor. They had not been trying for a baby, and Julia’s immediate pregnancy was equally dismaying to them both. “Ninety percent of people [of my generation] were born out of a bottle of whisky on a Saturday night, and there was no intention to have children,” the baby would one day observe bitterly. “I was never really wanted.”
Julia’s pregnancy coincided with the bleakest months in Europe’s history, as Hitler’s mechanized armies swept across Belgium and France, the battered remains of the British Expeditionary Force were evacuated from Dunkirk, and RAF fighters whirled like fiery gnats around the Luftwaffe’s incoming swarms of heavy bombers. Alone and braced for invasion, the country often seemed to have nothing to sustain it but the voice of its new prime minister, Winston Churchill, whose bulldog-like mien and gift for blood-igniting oratory made the most desperate moments seem somehow glorious.
In August, Alf sailed away again on the SS Empress of Canada. With London under nightly bombing and Britain seemingly defenseless, the RAF made a surprise hit-and-run raid on Berlin—an event that the Luftwaffe’s commander, Hermann Goering, had boasted could never happen. A furious Hitler promised to retaliate by razing all Britain’s other major cities. As a key port for the nation’s vital Atlantic food convoys, Liverpool prepared for the worst.
Julia’s sister, Mimi, would often relate how the baby’s arrival on October 9 was marked by an especially ferocious German night attack. According to Mimi, when news came that Julia had been delivered of a seven-and-a-half-pound boy, the air-raid sirens were wailing, and all public transport, as usual, had ground to a standstill. Such was her excitement that she ran the two miles from her parents’ home to the Oxford Street maternity hospital, oblivious of bombers and their parachute-borne land mines. The worst that Hitler could do seemed trivial by comparison with this marvelous event.
The week in question was certainly a bad one for Liverpool. The records of its Watch Committee show that on the night of October 7–8, high-explosive bombs fell on Stanley Road and Great Mersey Street in the city center and Lichfield Road and Grantley Road, Wavertree, causing damage to houses and demolishing the Welsh Chapel. The next night came two separate raids, hitting Everton Valley, Knotty Ash, Mossley Hill, and Mill Street in the first, and the Anfield area in the second. On the night of October 11–12, two more raids dropped tons of high explosive on the City and North Docks first, then on Alexandra and Langton Dock, causing serious damage to the Harbourmaster’s House, sheds, railway tracks, Admiralty stores, and four ships.
But on the night of October 9–10, the Luftwaffe unaccountably stayed away. As Mimi hurried toward Oxford Street, she would undoubtedly have seen the results of previous bombing, in rubble, shattered glass, and white-helmeted A.R.P. wardens. On later visits to Julia, the situation could have been as she remembered that first night, with a land mine falling next to the hospital and the new baby being wrapped in a rough blanket and put under his mother’s bed for safety. Uppermost in Mimi’s thoughts on October 9 was concern for her sister, mingled with delight that a boy had entered the overwhelmingly female Stanley family. Possibly it was the strength of her own emotion when she first held her nephew in her arms that helped give the scene its apocalyptic quality in her memory.
E. M. Forster once wrote that “there is a battle fought over every baby.” The battle over this particular Liverpool baby was to be fiercer than most—revealing not that he “wasn’t wanted,” as he came to believe, but that too many people wanted him too much. Nor would it become clear for some little time who had won him.
About his name, at least, there was
no conflict. Julia decided to call him John, which pleased Alf as a tribute to his paternal grandfather, the sometime Kentucky minstrel, but was also classically English middle-class, suggesting every quality the Stanleys most admired—plain, upright, steady, predictable, uncomplicated. And, with fierce wartime patriotism in common, neither side of the family could object to his mother’s giving him the middle name Winston, after Prime Minister Winston Churchill.
Alf’s long absences from home would later brand him in his son’s eyes as feckless, selfish, and unloving, but it should be remembered that as a merchant sailor he was doing one of the most vital and dangerous jobs in Britain’s war effort. Thousands of other Liverpool men were in his situation, facing the same dangers from German U-boats—drowning in icy seas or turning into oil-soaked human torches—while, back at home, children they barely knew were raised by committees of women. Undoubtedly, for all its hazards, the sea provided an escape from dull routine and responsibility, where Alf could turn into “Lennie” and live out his fantasies as an entertainer (now adding a skit on Adolf Hitler’s storm troopers to his repertoire of Jolson and Eddie Cantor). Another deterrent to seeking a safer shore job was that he was climbing the ladder of his profession. In September 1942, he gained promotion to saloon steward, the shipboard equivalent of headwaiter.
At the time, it appears, the most hostile of his in-laws no longer found anything to criticize about his nautical station, especially as he always returned home laden with booty from the ships’ pantries, meat and butter and fresh fruit otherwise impossible to obtain under wartime rationing, which he would share out liberally among them. While at sea, he would send programs of ships’ concerts featuring himself for Julia to show to John, who for years afterward would associate his father’s name with a mysterious number called “Begin the Beguine.”
Alf was at sea as saloon steward on the SS Moreton Bay from September 26, 1942, to February 2, 1943. Though air attacks on Liverpool had diminished since the horrendous “May blitz” of 1941, the city center was still considered a danger area. To make a safer as well as cleaner environment for John, Mimi persuaded Julia to move from 9 Newcastle Road out to suburban Woolton, where she herself had recently settled with her husband, George Smith. For several months, mother and son occupied a small house named the Cottage in Allerton Road, a short walk from Mimi’s home. It was here that John formed the first definite impressions of Julia as she sang him to sleep at night. “She used to do this little tune…from the Disney movie,” he would remember. “‘Want to know a secret? Promise not to tell. You are standing by a wishing-well…’”
The move was to put the first serious stress on a marriage that had never exactly been founded on maturity or trust. After being paid off by the Moreton Bay, Alf drew a stretch of shore leave long enough for him to register for fire-watching duties at Liverpool docks. Expecting Woolton to be a quiet retreat for Julia, he discovered that, on the contrary, she had acquired the habit of visiting local pubs, getting tipsy, and flirting with unattached men while Mimi or a neighbor named Dolly Hipshaw looked after John. One day, Alf answered the door to a noisy group of Julia’s new friends, who plainly had no idea she was even married. A furious argument followed, in which Julia poured a cup of hot tea over Alf’s head. He lashed out and caught her across the face, making her nose bleed.
John’s maternal grandmother, the sweet-natured Annie Stanley, had died earlier in 1943, before she could imprint any but the vaguest picture of herself on his mind. Reluctant to stay on alone at 9 Newcastle Road, Pop Stanley decided to turn the house over to Julia and Alf while he moved in with relatives. For a time, at least, the rent was paid by Alf’s older brother, Sydney. The anonymous little bay-fronted house, duplicated a thousand times in neighboring streets, became for John “the first place I remember…red brick…front room never used, always curtains drawn…picture of a horse and carriage on the wall. There were only three bedrooms upstairs, one on the front of the street, one in the back and one teeny little room in the middle…” He was already sharply observant, as Alf had realized the previous Christmas, when every department store in central Liverpool advertised its own Santa Claus grotto. “How many Father Christmases are there?” John asked.
In July 1943, Alf traveled to New York to work on Liberty Ships, the prefabricated merchantmen that America was mass-producing to replenish Britain’s battered Atlantic convoys. He would be absent for sixteen months on a bizarre journey that took him halfway around the world, showed him the inside of two prisons, saw an ominous amendment on his employment card from VG to D (Declined comment) and put the collapse of his marriage into overdrive. No “lost weekend” his son would experience in future years even came close to this.
Alf later portrayed himself as the innocent victim of circumstance, bad advice from superiors, and his own trusting nature—and, to be sure, the hysteria and malign happenstance of the war itself seems to have been as much blameworthy as any misdeed or mistake of his. In New York, he was kept waiting so long to be assigned a berth that he found a temporary job at Macy’s department store, acquired a Social Security card, and drank and sang his way through most of the better-known Broadway bars. Finally ordered to report to a Liberty Ship in Baltimore, he discovered he had been demoted to assistant steward. His only hope of keeping his proper “rate,” so a colleague advised, was to stay with the vessel until her first port of call, New York, then jump ship and take his problem to the British consul. Alf naïvely adopted this strategy and was promptly arrested for desertion and locked up for two weeks on Ellis Island.
On his release, he was ordered to accept a berth as assistant steward on a ship named the Sammex, bound for the Far East. When the Sammex docked in Bône, Algeria, Alf was arrested for the “theft by finding” of a bottle of whiskey and, by his own account, chose to take the rap rather than betray the friend who actually had committed the offense. He spent nine days in a horrific military prison, where he was forced to scrub latrines and threatened with death if he ever spoke about the conditions he had witnessed. Turned loose into the city’s dangerous casbah district, he met a mysterious Dutchman, known only as Hans, who not only saved him from being robbed and possibly murdered but also helped him rough up the British official he held partly responsible for his incarceration.
Finally, in October 1944, exhausted and half starved, with only a couple of dollars and his U.S. Social Security card in his pocket, he managed to scrounge passage back to Britain as a D.B.S. (Distressed British Seaman) on the troopship Monarch of Bermuda. In Liverpool, meanwhile, the shipping company had ceased paying his wages to Julia, who had no idea whether he was alive or dead. When he reached home, she informed him she was pregnant by another man. She had not been deliberately unfaithful, she said, but had been raped. She even gave Alf the name of the man she held responsible, a soldier stationed out on the Wirral Peninsula. Today, the police would instantly be called in; back then, the proper course was for Alf to confront the alleged rapist and demand what he had to say for himself.
Fortunately, Alf’s brother Charlie, by now serving with the Royal Artillery, was on hand to lend moral support. Charlie would later recall the episode in terms rather like a deposition to a court-martial: “[Alf] told me he had come home and found [Julia] six weeks gone, but not showing. She claimed she’d been raped by a soldier. She gave a name. We went over to the Wirral where the soldier was stationed…. Alfred wasn’t a violent man. Hasty-tempered but not violent. He said to him ‘I believe you’ve been having affairs with my wife and she accuses you of raping her.’ No such thing, says the soldier. It wasn’t rape—it was consent.”
The upshot was that soft-hearted Alf took a shine to the soldier, a young Welshman named Taffy Williams, listening sympathetically to his protestation that he loved Julia and wanted to marry her and bring up the baby on his family’s farm (though John seemed to feature nowhere in this plan). Alf decided he had no option but to step aside—a decision that possibly did not come too hard after Julia’s recent beha
vior. He persuaded Williams to accompany him back to 9 Newcastle Road, where, over a conciliatory pot of tea, he told Julia he was willing to let her go. No more inaccurate reading of the situation could have been possible. “I don’t want you, you fool,” she told her erstwhile lover disdainfully, recommending him to finish his tea and then “get lost.”
To Alf’s credit, he expressed himself willing to take Julia back and bring up the baby as his own. But Pop Stanley, fearing the inevitable public disgrace, insisted it must be put up for adoption. On June 19, 1945, five weeks after the war’s end, a girl was born to Julia at Elmswood, a Salvation Army maternity home in North Mossley Hill Road. Victoria Elizabeth, as Julia had named her, was adopted by a Norwegian couple named Pederson, who renamed her Ingrid Maria and took her off to Norway, out of her real mother’s life forever.
This period of crisis and upheaval in the Stanley family saw four-year-old John, for the one and only time, handed over to the care of his Lennon relatives. During Julia’s pregnancy and confinement, he was sent to live with Alf’s brother Sydney, a man whose respectability and drive to better himself even Mimi had come to acknowledge. Sydney, his wife, Madge, and their eight-year-old daughter, Joyce, welcomed John to their home in Maghull, a village between Liverpool and Southport. He was left with Sydney and Madge for something like eight months. The life they provided for him was stable and loving and, as time passed, they assumed that they’d be allowed to adopt him officially. So confident were they of this outcome that they put his name down to start at the local primary school the following autumn. Then Alf turned up one night without warning and announced he was taking John away. Despite Sydney’s protests about the lateness of the hour, he insisted they had to leave immediately. All the family were distraught at losing John, Madge in particular. Soon afterward she adopted a six-week-old baby boy to fill the void he had left.