‘So, how is my big old baby sister doing today?’ she asks. ‘I worry about you here all by yourself.’
‘I’ve got Dale,’ my mother says. ‘He’s with me.’
Margery pulls her coat close to her neck and says, ‘I worry about you, I can’t help myself. Chet wanted me to go with him to the Angus Barn for dinner, him and his sponsor and a few other people, marvelous people, but I said, ‘No, thank you, I’ve got to check in on that baby sister of mine because I worry about her.’ ‘ She takes another sip of her beer and beams.
This is standard Margery, to tell my mother stories of all the sacrifices she’s made to be here.
‘They all said, ‘Margery, come on! Come out and have some fun for a change.’ They said, ‘What is it with this sister of yours?’ Then Chet’s sponsor, Bobby, said, ‘Sister, hell, I believe she’s got a man tucked away somewhere on the sly,’ and everyone laughed. They simply would not leave me alone.’ Margery paused, shaking her head at the thought of them. ‘Those people, bless their hearts. They’ve saved my husband’s life and I love them for it, but still I worry about you and that’s why I’m here.’
‘The Angus Barn,’ my mother says. ‘Isn’t that the place out on Highway 70 where they wheel around the raw steaks and let you choose the one you want? I believe I went there once with Les when Dale was a baby.’
‘Les this, Les that,’ Margery says. ‘Let it go! You’re a fool to even speak that man’s name. You’re allowing him to live rent-free in your head. Now’s the time to let go of the past and move on! Look at me, I’ve moved ahead like you wouldn’t believe. If you want my opinion, you’re lucky that the man is dead and buried. Divorce is a lot worse than death, trust me. In death you get a lot more money. In divorce you get nothing but the same old promises — that coupled with the chance of running into the fat creep every time you leave the house. Look at me, I ran into my ex-husband just this afternoon, at Clawsons.’
‘Which one?’ I ask.
‘The one on Glenwood Avenue,’ she answers, mocking my voice, high-pitched and acidic.
I meant which ex-husband, and she knows it.
‘I ran into Terry Berringer and hardly recognized him. He looks like a snowman except, you know, made out of flesh. That man must have gained himself a good one hundred and fifty pounds since I left him. There he was pushing a cart like a death wish — all of the food was fatty and cancerous. God, that man can shovel it in. Even his eyes have gotten fat.’ She crosses her legs and dents her empty beer can. ‘I hope I never get fat eyes like that,’ she whispers, squinting at her reflection in the dark window.
‘I don’t think you have anything to worry about, Margery,’ my mother says. ‘You’ve got very slim eyes.’
‘Everyone tells me I’ve got pretty eyes,’ Margery says. ‘Everyone. They start in with my eyes and work their way down. Eyes are the mirror of your soul; they reflect what’s there, that’s their job.’ She places her hands to the side of her face and leans into them, removing the creases. That’s the oldest trick in the book, that attempt to appear both young and pensive. You see it all the time in magazines. ‘Eyes,’ she says. ‘I don’t know why I even brought them up. Here I am carrying on and on when my problems are nothing compared to yours. Here you are without a pot to pee in, pardon my French, while I’m speaking philosophy.’
My mother rubs a washrag into the palm of her hand.
‘Dale, run upstairs and get me another beer,’ Aunt Margery says.
‘Another what?’
‘Beer,’ she says. ‘Can’t you understand English — BEER.’
‘Go upstairs and get you an ear?’ I am hoping to break my record.
‘Dale,’ my mother says, ‘go upstairs and bring your aunt a beer before you drive me to distraction.’
So I head upstairs thinking that something is definitely wrong in this world when my aunt can order me to fetch the drinks for her. It should be the other way around! ‘You there,’ I’d say, ‘bring me a Pepsi in a tall glass with five ice cubes. Now.’
‘But Master,’ she’d say, kneeling, ‘there is no Pepsi left and the nearest store is closed for the evening.’
‘Then run to the store that is open,’ I would command. ‘Don’t bother me with the logistics — run, woman, run.’ She should be my slave, and yet I am hers.
There is one beer left in the refrigerator. I take it in my hand and dance about the kitchen. I dance the way I see them dance on television, as if I’m on fire. I shake that can and on my way downstairs I toss it from one landing to the next. Standing at the door to the basement apartment I notice that it has begun to snow, the first snowfall of the season. Snow is great that way, the first snowfall of the season and you look at the world as though you’d never seen it before, as if you had forgotten such a thing was possible.
I dart into the apartment, hand Margery the beer, and leave, saying, ‘Time for my program. I’ve got to go.’ Outside, on the landing, I hear Margery say, ‘That boy watches too much TV if you ask me. He should be involved in sports or homework or something. It’s not good for him, all this television. Ivey Ingers’s son watched too much television and look what happened to him! He’ll be in prison for the rest of his life.’
‘Dale’s not that way,’ my mother says.
‘That’s what Ivey Ingers thought before the trial,’ Margery says. ‘Here she is, her only son ties naked ten-year-old girls to trees and she’s on TV saying, ‘He’s not so bad.’ ’
I am waiting for the explosion. Margery rarely opens a beer while she is preaching. During her lectures she taps the can with her fingers as if the beer is her brain and she is prodding it for wisdom. Both of them are silent and it is getting late. In a moment or two my mother will say, ‘Stay for dinner, Margery. I’ll cook something nice.’
Then Margery will say thanks, but no thanks. She’ll say that Chet is feeding her leftovers from the Angus Barn. She just popped in, she’ll say. Just a quick yoohoo! She’s sorry but she’ll have to leave right after this beer.
Standing outside the door I press my head against the mailbox and wish that she might stay, knowing that, following her beer bomb departure, my mother and I will make certain phone calls. She’ll listen in on the other line as I dial and soften my voice, identifying myself as the son of a man named Les Poppins. I will hear my mother’s measured breath from the next room as these women, sleepy and innocent, whisper, ‘What? Who? Why do you keep calling me? Why can’t you leave me alone?’
GLEN’S HOMOPHOBIA NEWSLETTER VOL. 3, NO. 2
DEAR Subscriber,
First of all, I’d like to apologize for the lack of both the spring and summer issues of Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter. I understand that you subscribed with the promise that this was to be a quarterly publication — four seasons’ worth of news from the front lines of our constant battle against oppression. That was my plan. It’s just that last spring and summer were so overwhelming that I, Glen, just couldn’t deal with it all.
I’m hoping you’ll understand. Please accept as consolation the fact that this issue is almost twice as long as the others. Keep in mind the fact that it’s not easy to work forty hours a week and produce a quarterly publication. Also, while I’m at it, I’d like to mention that it would be wonderful if everyone who read Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter also subscribed to Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter. It seems that many of you are very generous when it comes to lending issues to your friends and family. That is all well and good as everyone should understand the passion with which we as a people are hated beyond belief. But at the same time, it costs to put out a newsletter and every dollar helps. It costs to gather data, to Xerox, to staple and mail, let alone the cost of my personal time and energies. So if you don’t mind, I’d rather you mention Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter to everyone you know but tell them they’ll have to subscribe for themselves if they want the whole story. Thank you for understanding.
As I stated before, last spring and summer were very difficult for me. In late Apri
l Steve Dolger and I broke up and went our separate ways. Steve Dolger (see newsletters volume 2, nos. 14 and volume 3, no. 1) turned out to be the most homophobic homosexual I’ve ever had the displeasure of knowing. He lives in constant fear; afraid to make any kind of mature emotional commitment, afraid of growing old and losing what’s left of his hair, and afraid to file his state and federal income taxes (which he has not done since 1987). Someday, perhaps someday very soon, Steve Dolger’s past will come back to haunt him. We’ll see how Steve and his little seventeen-year-old boyfriend feel when it happens!
Steve was very devious and cold during our breakup. I felt the chill of him well through the spring and late months of summer. With deep feelings come deep consequences and I, Glen, spent the last two seasons of my life in what I can only describe as a waking coma — blind to the world around me, deaf to the cries of suffering others, mutely unable to express the stirrings of my wildly shifting emotions.
I just came out of it last Thursday.
What has Glen discovered? I have discovered that living blind to the world around you has its drawbacks but, strangely, it also has its rewards. While I was cut off from the joys of, say, good food and laughter, I was also blind to the overwhelming homophobia that is our everlasting cross to bear.
I thought that for this edition of the newsletter I might write something along the lines of a homophobia Week in Review but this single week has been much too much for me. Rather, I will recount a single day.
My day of victimization began at 7:15A.M. when I held the telephone receiver to my ear and heard Drew Pierson’s voice shouting, ‘Fag, Fag, Fag,’ over and over and over again. It rings in my ears still. ‘Fag! I’ll kick your ass good and hard the next time I see you. Goddamn you, Fag!’ You, reader, are probably asking yourself, ‘Who is this Drew Pierson and why is he being so homophobic toward Glen?’
It all began last Thursday. I stopped into Dave’s Kwik Stop on my way home from work and couldn’t help but notice the cashier, a bulky, short-haired boy who had ‘athletic scholarship’ written all over his broad, dullish face and ‘Drew Pierson: I’m here to help!’ written on a name tag pinned to his massive chest. I took a handbasket and bought, I believe, a bag of charcoal briquettes and a quartered fryer. At the register this Drew fellow rang up the items and said, ‘I’ll bet you’re going home to grill you some chicken.’
I admitted that it was indeed my plan. Drew struck me as being very perceptive and friendly. Most of the Kwik Stop employees are homophobic but something about Drew’s manner led me to believe that he was different, sensitive and open. That evening, sitting on my patio and staring into the glowing embers nestled in my tiny grill, I thought of Drew Pierson and for the first time in months I felt something akin to a beacon of hope flashing through the darkness of my mind. I, Glen, smiled.
I returned to Dave’s Kwik Stop the next evening and bought some luncheon meat, a loaf of bread, potato chips, and a roll of toilet paper.
At the cash register Drew rang up my items and said, ‘I’ll bet you’re going on a picnic in the woods!’
The next evening I had plans to eat dinner at the condominium of my sister and her homophobic husband, Vince Covington (see newsletter volume 1, no. 1). On the way to their home I stopped at the Kwik Stop, where I bought a can of snuff. I don’t use snuff, wouldn’t think of it. I only ordered snuff because it was one of the few items behind the counter and on a lower shelf. Drew, as an employee, is forced to wear an awkward garment — sort of a cross between a vest and a sandwich board. The terrible, synthetic thing ties at the sides and falls practically to the middle of his thigh. I only ordered the snuff so that, as he bent over to fetch it, I might get a more enlightened view of Drew’s physique. Regular readers of this newsletter will understand what I am talking about. Drew bent over and squatted on his heels, saying, Which one? Tuberose? I used to like me some snuff. I’ll bet you’re going home to relax with some snuff, aren’t you?’
The next evening, when i returned for more snuff, Drew explained that he was a freshman student at Carteret County Community College, where he majors in psychology. I was touched by his naé. CCCC might as well print their diplomas on tar paper. One might take a course in diesel mechanics or pipe fitting but under no circumstances should one study psychology at CCCC. That is where certified universities recruit their studies for abnormal psychology. CCCC is where the missing links brood and stumble and swing from the outer branches of our educational system.
Drew, bent over, said that he was currently taking a course in dreams. The teacher demands that each student keep a dream notebook, but Drew, exhausted after work, sleeps, he said, ‘like a gin soaked log,’ and wakes remembering nothing.
I told him I’ve had some interesting dreams lately, because it’s true, I have.
Drew said, ‘Symbolic dreams? Dreams that you could turn around when you’re awake and make sense of?’
I said, yes, haunting dreams, meaningful, dense.
He asked then, hunkered down before the snuff, if I would relate my dreams to him. I answered, yes indeed, and he slapped a tin of snuff on the counter and said, ‘On the house!’
I returned home, my heart a bright balloon. Drew might be young, certainly — perhaps no older than, say, Steve Dolger’s current boyfriend. He may not be able to hold his own during strenuous intellectual debate, but neither can most people. My buoyant spirit carried me home, where it was immediately deflated by the painful reminder that my evening meal was to consist of an ethnic lasagna pathetically submitted earlier that day by Melinda Delvecchio, a lingering temp haunting the secretarial pool over at the office in which I work. Melinda, stout, inquisitive, and bearded as a potbellied pig, has taken quite a shine to me. She is clearly and mistakenly in love with me and presents me, several times a week, with hideous dishes protected with foil. ‘Someone needs to fatten you up,’ she says, placing her eager hooves against my stomach. One would think that Melinda Delvecchio’s kindness might come as a relief to the grinding homophobia I encounter at the office.
One might think that Melinda Delvecchio is thoughtful and generous until they pull back the gleaming foil under which lies her hateful concoction of overcooked pasta stuffed with the synthetic downy fluff used to fill plush toys and cheap cushions. Melinda Delvecchio is no friend of mind — far from it — and, regarding the heated ‘lasagna’ steaming before me, I made a mental note to have her fired as soon as possible.
That night I dreamt that I was forced to leave my home and move underground into a dark, subterranean chamber with low, muddy ceilings and no furniture. That was bad enough, but to make matters worse I did not live alone but had to share the place with a community of honest-to-God trolls. These were small trolls with full beards and pointy, curled shoes. The trolls were hideously and relentlessly merry. They called me by name, saying, ‘Glen, so glad you could join us! Look, everybody, Glen’s here! Welcome aboard, friend!’ They were all so agree-able and satisfied with my company that I woke up sweating at 6:00A.M. and could not return to sleep for fear of them.
I showered twice and shaved my face, passing the time until seven, at which time I phoned Drew at his parents’ home. He answered groggy and confused. I identified myself and paused while he went to fetch a pencil and tablet with which to record my story.
Regular readers of Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter know that I, Glen, honor truth and hold it above all other things. The truth, be it ugly or naked, does not frighten me. The meaner the truth, the harder I, Glen, stare it down. However, on this occasion I decided to make an exception. My dreaming of trolls means absolutely nothing. It’s something that came to me in my sleep and is of no real importance. It is our waking dreams, our daydreams that are illuminating. Regular readers of Glen’s Homophobia Newsletter know that I dream of the day when our people can walk the face of this earth free of the terrible homophobia that binds us. What are sleeping dreams but so much garbage? I can’t bear to hear other people’s dreams unless I myself am in them.
I put all these ideas together in a manageable sort of way and told Drew Pierson that I dreamt I was walking through a forest of angry, vindictive trees.
‘Like those hateful trees in The Wizard of Oz?’ he said. ‘Those mean trees that threw the apples?’
‘Yes,’ I said, ‘exactly.’
‘Did any of them hit you?’ he asked, concerned.
‘A few.’
‘Ouch! Then what?’
I told him I came upon a clearing where I saw a single tree, younger than the rest but stocky, a husky, good-looking tree that spoke to me, saying, ‘I’ll bet you’re tired of being hated, aren’t you?’
I could hear Drew scratching away with his pencil and repeating my dictation: ‘I…bet…you’re…tired…of…being…hated…’
I told Drew that the tree had spoken in a voice exactly like his own, low and firm, yet open and friendly.
‘Like my voice, really?’ He seemed pleased. ‘Damn, my voice on a tree. I never thought about a thing like that.’
That night I dreamt I was nailed to a cross that was decorated here and there with fragrant tulips. I glanced over at the cross next to me, expecting to see Christ, but instead, nailed there, I saw Don Rickles. We waved to each other and he mouthed the words, ‘Hang in there.’
I called Drew the next morning and told him I once again dreamt I was in a forest clearing. Once again I found myself face-to-face with a husky tree.
Drew asked, ‘What did the tree say this time?’
I told him the tree said, ‘Let me out! Let me out! I’m yearning to break free.’